Where did today go?
When did being constantly busy become the norm or in some cases, a requirement? When did we lose permission to have some time out?
Life is busy: we all know that. I feel however that we often add unnecessarily to the pace of our lives. As a generalisation I think western society is at a point that unless we’re constantly moving from one task to another we think we’re wasting time or not doing enough.
How much of what we are doing is really necessary and does it really need to be done today?
Some days I’m left feeling that that the hamster wheel is spinning out of control and wonder have we become a work force of task doers so that we can justify and retain our roles?
We all have 24 hours each day: 8 hours to work, 8 hour to rest and 8 hours to play. Sadly I think for many of us, the work component is increasing so rest and play are reduced. In short the balance of our day is out.
Some days I want to slow down. I want to stop. I want to rest.
How about you?
For many the day starts fast and keeps going.
The alarm wakes us before we would naturally wake, we leap into the shower to wash, eat breakfast (if at all) as we’re doing other tasks or heading out the door to travel to work. We arrive at work, grab a coffee then multi task to try to keep on top of the “to do” list that is getting longer. Lunch is often at our desk working as we eat or if we lucky we head out at lunchtime, grab a take-away lunch and race around to complete domestic “to dos” such as admin, pay bills, groceries. Back to work to multi task some more till it’s time to race to the bus, train or car to head home. At home there is dinner to cook, lunches to prepare, homework to supervise, washing to do before sometime later in the evening it’s bedtime with the alarm clock set to start all over again tomorrow.
Has life always been this busy? Are we trying to do too much? Does society demand that we do? Or do we do it too ourselves?
Regardless, how do we resolve this?
There will always be things that we need to do however here are 5 things that I feel will help you manage your day and put some balance back into your day:
1. Slow down
This is important. If you’re racing and multi-tasking through the day, while the to-do list may get shorter, your stress level will just continue to increase. Pick the 3 most important things that need to be achieved right now and do them one task at a time. Only do additional tasks once the 3 most important ones are completed.
If on some days, you manage to complete only 1 or 2 tasks congratulate yourself on getting them done. Tomorrow is a new day and you will start the list again tomorrow.
2. Prioritise and Care For Your Self
We make time for others and their demands but how often do we prioritise our self? We have to value ourselves and our time: if we don’t we’re likely to crash and burn.
Schedule in some time into your day for yourself, even just a small block of time. When you give yourself time to do things that enhance and add value to your life, you are better able to manage the sh*tty tasks that often come your way.
3. Connect with humans
Get away from desk and computer, put down your phone and be with real people.
Express your feelings. Share stories, a meal, a compliment, encouragement. Laugh. Have some fun. Share a smile and a hug if appropriate. Human connection is essential to our well being. When we feel we have a meaningful connection with others we are more likely to feel valued and appreciative making it easier to keep going.
Move your body. Breathe some fresh air. Rest your eyes, brain and body from sitting at a desk interacting with technology.
Sitting for extend periods of time is not healthy. Nor is being in artificial environments and staring at computer screens and using phones.
Take the time to physically remove yourself from your work environment to rest and recharge your senses: when you do, you’ll find work tasks much easier to complete.
5. Be still
It’s in moments of stillness that we give ourselves permission to stop. It’s when understanding and learning become evident: when we’re so busy rushing around we can miss those light bulb moments.
Meditation is an ideal way to give yourself something to do when you are being still. If meditation is new to you, start with 5 minutes a day and gradually increase to about 20 minutes a session. Regular practice of meditation will have positive benefits on your emotional, mental and physical health.
Until next time, wishing you a balanced day filled with love, laughter and happiness!