Welcome to 2018!
The new year is underway and I’m feeling confident that 2018 will be a good year for me and you too.
For some of us it can take time to feel confident and empowered to live our purpose and achieve our goals. That’s not to say we’ve not already being living a meaningful and/or successful life to date however, it’s more about being truly connected with who you are and trusting in that connection so that you continue to steer your life in a way that will allow you to flourish and let the world see and enjoy how amazing you are!
You may have remembered my post from the beginning of 2017 when I shared my ‘word’ for 2017. If not, have a quick look at it here.
Yes opportunities did come to me however, parts of 2017 had me feeling overwhelmed by all that I had to do.
At other times despite ‘doing’ things, I felt I was treading water and going nowhere.
Anne Clark from Envision Empower Succeed (a lady who I admire greatly for her honesty, her positive outlook on life and her genuine desire to inspire and assist others to succeed) recently shared her summation of 2017 based on her interactions with women in particular:
“…one of feeling overwhelmed, a sense of lost or no control and exhaustion from doing everything and gaining nothing.”
I want and need this year to be different for me so my word for 2018 is:
My vision and goals are still there however I need to streamline and put behaviours in place that will allow me to succeed.
2018 going forward
We all engage and work in a number of different areas in our lives: work, family, friendships, home, hobbies, second jobs, sport, creative, religious, cultural etc, etc.
Each area has its own set of behaviours, obligations, responsibilities, tasks, actions and goals. Some areas of our lives dovetail beautifully with another whilst some are out there on their own as they are a separate part of our personality and interests.
We want to achieve well in all areas of our life, but can we?
No doubt like me, you have tried to juggle everything at once with the result usually being some progress in one area, not achieving much in the majority and no progress at all in the remaining. Overall you can be left feeling overwhelmed and guilty by what hasn’t been achieved even though you have been constantly doing.
In order to feel less stressed, gain a sense of control and create work/life balance, Anne Clark advocates focusing on you and putting in boundaries so that 2018 is one of balance and reconnection and alignment with your purpose.
I like the sound of that!
How to create work/balance
Anne suggests a number of steps to achieve this.
- The first and probably the most important, is Letting Go.
Whenever a chapter of our life, be it large or small, comes to a close, it’s important to take the time to acknowledge and applaud the achievements, to reflect on the challenges, to embrace the learnings and to grow from the overall experience.
Acknowledging what has been regardless of whether the outcome was good, bad or indifferent, will allow you to move forward.
- Next is Self-Care.
This is also a biggie and an area that many women in particular don’t do well. We make our family, our friends, and our jobs a priority with little or no energy left for ourselves.
This has to change Ladies!!!
In Anne’s words:
“Self-care is about switching off from your normal routine to enable your mind, body and soul to relax and unwind.”
What is it that makes you laugh, have fun, feel alive, and creative?
These are the things and people that all too often we let go from our life when we feel overwhelmed so it’s important to reconnect with them in order to allow the energy you to flow.
Your purpose is the thing that you were meant to do in this life.
It’s the thing that inspires, captivates and excites you most, that you dream big about and keeps you awake at night as you visualise in graphic detail as to what your vision will be and how it unfolds.
In the midst of day-to-day life, wanted and unwanted obligations and responsibilities, we can lose sight of our vision and loose our direction in life.
How we live our life and present ourselves to the world doesn’t always match up with how we feel inside and what is important to us in terms our values, goals and desires. When is does, you are living in alignment with who you really are.
When your outside self is in alignment with your inside self, you feel empowered and everything feels possible.
It’s very easy to lose the balance of rest, work and play when we have so many areas of our life to manage.
Life is all about balance. You don’t always need to be getting stuff done. Sometimes it’s perfectly okay, and absolutely necessary, to shut down, kick back, and do nothing. – Lori Deschene
How to put this all into place?
According to Anne, PLANNING and COMMITMENT are the key.
Book into your diary or calendar set times each week for:
- reconnecting with the people and things that make you laugh, have fun, feel alive, and creative
- working on your goals
- to do nothing
Honour and respect those booked times for yourself as you would a meeting for a client or an obligation.
Committing to you is essential. You need these times to allow you to create balance in your life, to reconnection with who you are and to align with your purpose.
This is your life and 2018 is your year!
- Set goals to get results.
- Make changes where necessary to keep you steering your own course.
- Embrace the unexpected challenges: see them as opportunities to learn and grow.
- Bask in the magic moments.
- Honour, love and respect yourself.
Until next time, wishing you love, laughter, happiness and an amazing 2018.
Joanna J xo